Why do girls like bad boys?
The situation in which a good and decent girl chooses a notorious bastard, a scoundrel and a scoundrel is not such a rare one, a lot of films have been made on this subject, hundreds of books have been written and there are a lot of thoughts of ordinary people. Why is that?
And if women are not very concerned about this issue, then men with a note of “good” are periodically puzzled by this thought, especially after another setback with a lady who chose such a scoundrel.
But you gave her flowers, brought candies, lit gifts with gifts, and drove to restaurants, promised gold mountains and a bright future. And he only occasionally appears, occasionally consumes spirits and his attitude towards this lady can hardly be called a good word ...
Despite the girl’s sincere desire to find a loving, kind, understanding and caring guy, as a result, for some reason, often everything happens exactly the opposite, and from there the legs of all those endless female dramas, broken hearts and heavy partings grow.
Whatever friends and girlfriends say, no matter how parents would persuade, she still continues to wait for his call and reassure everyone around him with violent, fateful love.
What is behind such a strange behavior, where do such strong feelings arise from and where does your self-esteem disappear when it once again changes or just does not appear for a long time? Let's try to figure it out, why girls love the bad guys so much.
Psychological side of the issue
Many psychologists agree in one opinion: women love “bad guys” because it is in them that one can find the maximum bunch of frankly “male” qualities: fearless, self-confident, with the obvious makings of a leader, unpredictable and independent, and sometimes even aggressive and reckless, in a word, a real male.
He evokes strong feelings from both sexes: men respect and listen to him, while women admire and try to win the attention of a “real man”, because he is a true hero of a love story.
If you go down in your thoughts as deeply as possible, you will find that the roots of the question go far beyond modernity, into primitive society.
Female behavior is largely based on instincts, so it is not always predictable and explainable: during the times of the primitive tribe, the primary task of the woman was to bear and raise offspring, and for this it was important to find a real male who is able to feed the family and protect it from wild beasts.
In fact, today nothing has changed, and in these "bad" men, often, there is something that affects women, so to speak, exciting.
Despite the fact that today we understand with our mind that a modern alpha male is not exactly what is needed for long-lasting and strong relationships that are so valued in our society, instincts in this matter play their traitorous role.
Well, how close to such a charismatic "macho" can a quiet and modest "good guy" look like, who does not rush into a fight for you, does not have great self-confidence, but prefers calm and predictable home evenings for a cup of favorite tea?
But what to say, this prospect looks absolutely not romantic, or the business is “bad” - passion, intrigue, unpredictable pastime, living with such a man is never boring.
Every lady wants, at least once in her life, to feel like a real beast, a fatal beauty who can conquer men's hearts at a glance and bring them to a half-unconscious state of love.
In the view of most beautiful ladies, this stereotype is laid down: anyone can win "good", for this it does not have to be any special.
But to seduce and seduce a bad guy is the lot of real goddesses, with professional temptations of a seductress, women, like men, are real hunters! The sad fact is that, even having subdued such a "dangerous tiger", turning it into a "affectionate kitten" is extremely difficult, because people, in the majority, do not change.
Another reason why women often go into the abyss of passion with a bad man is the elementary boredom. Boring gray days - work-home-work - is what has long surrounded her and does not plan to change under any circumstances.
And then there appears on the horizon a brutal and unpredictable macho, capable of making a real firework, a storm of emotions and a sea of unusual moments, which with an ordinary and simple-minded guy, accustomed to living by the rules, just do not get it.
With such a hero-lover, a woman feels herself the real beauty of some American film about love, where the "boy-bad guy" falls in love with a good, but at first sight, inconspicuous and very diligent girl. But only life is not a movie.
“Girls choose those they think they deserve”
The phrase, which fully reflects the essence of another common reason, forms the basis of such unequal relations. Girls who have low self-esteem, regarding their own appearance, work or education, often choose a man who, in her opinion, will be able to accept her shortcomings, since he himself is far from ideal.
They believe that they are not worthy of good guys, consciously making a choice in the direction of the bad guys, who, in the opinion of the girl herself, can love such as she. It is a pity that this opinion is often wrong.
"I will save him!"
Most women, despite their age and status, remain romantic and gentle natures who believe in the miraculous properties of love. Such women as a magnet, attract all sorts of alcoholics, scoundrels and womanmen, because they firmly believe that the power of their feelings can change them.
As in a beautiful melodrama: bad guy becomes a good and kind guy, he admits all his mistakes and steps on the right path of love and family happiness.
Such ladies deliberately make sacrifices for the benefit, in the hope that sometime their efforts will still bear fruit, and they will become "owners" of a tasty morsel, but, more often, for many years they only endure the humiliation and bullying that unlikely to grow into something good.
Needless to say, building a relationship with a partner who does not respect you and is constantly in awe of nerves is a bad idea, because it is almost impossible to rehabilitate such a person.
Most often, with bad boys there are romantic and young girls who still do not understand what future may be behind this. But after the first burn, they become wiser and, in most cases, begin to appreciate the kindness and modesty of the usual "quiet."
Make the right choice!
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