Your Weird Sex Questions Answered!
Your sex questions, answered
Her phone sees more action in the bedroom than I do. How can I get in on her screen time?
Michael, 36, liverpool
Getting busy between the sheets is gradually becoming code for answering after-hours work emails. This might be great for our careers but it’s a sad state of affairs for our personal lives. Ofcom statistics show 81% of us keep our smartphones to hand at all times, so join me in harnessing your wifi connection to disrupt your sleep for all the right reasons. Jennifer McEwen, co-founder of the sex app store MiKandi, recommends apps that are designed to interact with sex toys. Try the We-Vibe couples vibrator or the OhMiBod massager, which pulse in time to music and can be operated by one partner via wifi or bluetooth to tantalise the other. And if you’re both feeling particularly adventurous, download Down. This app allows you to see which of your Facebook friends are interested in hooking up. You don’t need to make it a ménage à trois, but you might just get a vicarious thrill from discussing sexual misdeeds and predilections with a third party.
I’m over Tinder hookups, and all this right swiping is actually starting to get me down. Is that normal?
Alistair, 28, Glasgow
Hookups are like takeaway: either you’re the kind of man who relishes his usual from a trusted pizza spot, or variety is your spice of life. According to NYU researchers, it depends on your “sociosexual orientation inventory” (SOI). Those with a high SOI derive a self-esteem boost from sex without commitment. Since you crave more than a fling, you probably have a low SOI; rather than inflating your ego, your expanding contacts list is wearing you down. Spare yourself (and thumbs) the stress of swiping and stick to one partner.
I’m au fait with the paris and rome of erogenous zones. Where are her lesser-known hot spots?
Craig, 34, newcastle
Well, intrepid explorer... The reality is both men and women share many of the same well-trodden destinations, according to Bangor University. Chiefly: the lips, nipples, buttocks, inner thighs, ears, navel and– naturally – genitals. That said San Francisco-based sex educator Midori has a couple of hidden-gem suggestions for those who want to get off the beaten track. “While we celebrate neck-kissing, we often forget to take it right round to the nape, at the base of the skull. Giving that region a gentle bite or finger nail scratch can send shivers down her back.”And below the belt? “Try just inside of the hip bone, those spots where your fingers press during doggie-style. Applying pressure there will shoot zingy sensations across the pelvis and down to the clitoral legs (the body of the internal clitoris is made up of two legs, which erect toward the spine). Try slow, circular movements – ask her to tell you when you hit the mark.” Go forth and be bold.
Tonight’s the big night with my new belle. How do I get her to believe good things come in small packages?
Daniel, 22, Sussex
Big news: recent UCLA research suggests your worries might be unfounded. It’s not length that women care about, but girth. Still anxious? Before you throw cash at a penis-pump ad, try a tight-squeeze missionary: hold her legs up at 90 degrees from her body and keep them together as you penetrate. If she wants to ride you, compensate with clitoral stimulation – and a few ego-boosting remarks about how she looks. After all, there’s a strong positive-perception correlation between her feeling great and your size.
After recent ‘gymnastics’, my girlfriend has hurt her back. Is sex now off the table?
Eric, 28, Manchester
All is not lost. But, as with any sport, getting your form right is crucial. Professor Stuart McGill, a back specialist at the University of Waterloo, used Avatar-style green screen tech to measure how couples move during sex in five common positions. According to his team, the key is to identify her type of back pain first. If she experiences increased discomfort when she sits for too long, she’ll likely have spine-flexion triggered pain, so doggy style will help her back fare better. If her pain is triggered by bending backward then swap spooning for the missionary position. Which of you is on top makes a difference too. Be a gentleman and minimise her work by taking the top position, as she lies on her back with a pillow supporting her lower back. If she’s keen to take the lead, then she needs to keep her spine in a neutral position and create the action with her hips. Oh, and a side note: if you really want to help her out without putting her out, I’d advise you go down on her. The orgasm is a natural analgesic, after all.
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